Frustration and Flexibility

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I feel like February is an inevitably bad month. It's still cold, spring break is light years away, and life appears to be record-breakingly stagnant. Or overwhelmingly busy. One of the two, but not anywhere in between.

Unhappy month or not, sometimes it can be incredibly easy to get frustrated and be volcanically angry at small things (and it being February doesn't make it better. Trust me, it's personal).
You know, when someone does something really stupid, like maybe leaving the door wide open in the winter and then not hearing you the fourth time you try to explain to them to close it and then somehow mishearing "NEVERMIND" as "Oh wait you don't have to close the door ever". LIKE REALLY SIR WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM.

I mean, if that hypothetically happened to someone, you know.

When something stupid and aggravating like that happens, it's hard not to let it ruin your day (or at least the period of time right after you get mad). Anger just totally messes with any fleeting senses of calm that you have during a busy day. And it's not worth it. It's not worth spending so much energy on, trying to calm yourself down while trying to figure out how to not be mad again in the future.

The thing is, frustrated moments in your life are going to be abundant. There's no way to track down every problem to its source and try to shield yourself from internal explosion.


Life is volatile, and the best way to life in harmony with it, and with yourself, is to change yourself instead of the circumstances.

I learned this lesson the hard way, and let's just say....experience has its merits. Don't waste your energy beating a boulder when you can just go around it.
Be flexible! If you don't focus neurotically on driving everything into the ground, you won't feel a need to make everything right in the world whether you are capable of doing that or not.
^uh that didn't make sense.

Basically, if I had relaxed and just closed the door myself, I wouldn't have had to rant to an invisible internet audience about a stale frustration. I could have let it go. I could have gotten someone else to explain to the uncomprehending sir that "SCREW EVERYTHING" does not mean "Oh let me just do that exact opposite of what you want."

Okay, I'm still bitter.

But be flexible! There are so many options besides being angry, and you just have to choose them.


......freaking language barriers.

See you guys soon; don't get mad and be flexible and enjoy lovliness and remember to muse. :)